Wednesday, 29 December 2010

An Old Poem I Found

I found this scrap of paper today, at the back of my drawer.
A torn piece of A4 white typek Paper with a centralised verse typed onto it. I realised that it was a poem that my sister Tracy wrote when she was between 10 and 14 years old. I've held onto it since 1994-8 not so much for it's content but because of the raw talent and beautiful style it possesses - read it - you'll agree that it is a beautiful free verse poem.
I only hope that my talented sister is still writing!

"Could it be the one I love,
The one man, the only man that satisfies me.
My lips are dry, my eyes are drenched, is this what is to be?
The honey has grown stale, and my lips know it;
Let them teach my weary soul, for it doesn't understand...
They say I've got gifts beyond the human border,
I've misplaced them. and they live no longer in my soul.
With every tear that splashes onto my chest, I feel freedom.
Then why am I behind bars.
I don't understand the word,
Lines from my jail make it hard to see.
My faith is crushed, but I know you...
Break me from my jail free.
Set freedom in my heart,
Build up my faith with the blood of Christ,
Like glue between broken porcelain.
Dry my eyes and moisten my lips;
With the Word which will be like fresh honey to me.
Let any tear that stumbles from my eyes,
Be rather for the weary at heart than for me.
For the blood of Christ has again and again set me free"
Have a great day

Sandy Bigara
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Monday, 27 December 2010

A Contented Christmas : )

Change is as good as medicine, maybe better. Except when you go on holiday and your body has a distress freak out and you end up with laryngitis, and your look like swamp thing (me at the moment) but back to my point…my Blog layout. It has changed. If you hate it let me know otherwise the change is here to stay…until I get bored again.


Christmas Eve was fantastic! We made it to Shanyn's without any major catastrophe and were amazed at how much trouble she went too – the table, the food, decorations, everything – I was super impressed – all of that on the hottest day ever. Ever. Ever!


Well, I ate Gammon like a pig, Chicken, Potatoes…you name it and I ate it. Pudding was the most delicious Chocolate mousse ever. Ever. Ever! After opening presents we headed home quite late and were all passed out by midnight.


Christmas Day… wow. We had originally planned on a relaxed 9am present opening but with a child in the house we managed to eek our way to 7am.

My Gran, Mom, Step-Dad, Husband, Daughter and Baby all filled our lounge with ripping paper, squeals of delight and general chaos until the presents were opened. Savanna is in heaven!

We all went to a lovely Church service and then spent the day resting and even fitted in a long cat nap (as a family of four we all seem to sleep at the same time in the afternoon – what a blessing!) and in the afternoon we had a stunning, tasty chilled out braai with my Mom and Step-Dad at their place (next door) all together it was one of the nicest Christmas days.


Boxing Day was also amazing; we were spoiled with an incredible lunch at my Aunt Terri and Uncle Leigh's home in Hawaan Forest Estate. The food was delish! I am so heavy! Kelsey slept the whole way (what a star) and Savanna was an angel.


This is one of the nicest Festive Seasons we have ever had. Blessed our socks off!


Hope that your New Years Eve celebrations are safe.



Sandy Bigara

Sunday, 26 December 2010

History of Boxing Day

Snurched from


Boxing Day originated in England in the middle of the nineteenth century under Queen Victoria. December 26th, or Boxing Day is a holiday celebrated in Britain, Australia, New Zealand, Canada, and other Commonwealth countries. It is spent with family and friends at open gatherings with lots of food, fun, friendship and love. Boxing Day is so called because it was the custom on that day for tradesmen to collect their Christmas boxes or gifts in return for good and reliable service throughout the year.

Boxing Day is also St. Stephen's Day. St Stephen was a little known saint who achieved eternal fame by being the first Christian to be martyred for his faith by being stoned to death shortly after Christ's crucifixion.

The traditional celebration of Boxing Day included giving money and other gifts to charitable institutions, needy individuals, and people in service jobs.

The holiday may date from the Middle Ages (A.D. 400's--1500's), but the exact origin is unknown. It may have begun with the lords and ladies of England, who presented Christmas gifts in boxes to their servants on December 26. Or it may have begun with priests, who opened the church's alms (charity) boxes on the day after Christmas and distributed the contents to the poor.
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Tuesday, 21 December 2010

UShaka isi uKaka

After realizing that if we all stayed indoors for one more day, we would kill each other. We opted to stressfully pack a picnic, cozzies and toys, ignoring the light drizzle...and we headed off to Rayz World @ uShaka. Beeg mistake.

The 20minute journey took over an hour (thank you Western Province) and after parking in 'Parkade B' (uShaka Slang for 'the parking section we have not paved or looked after at all') we paid R15 and walked for three days and two nights till we reached the side entrance behind Moyo.

We were so desperate for the loo by this stage that we hightailed it passed the shops until we found the loo, you know it, it's the only loo in uKaka, I mean uShaka. Well, it seems that 2010 was not kind to the loo's at uKaka. The stats look like something out of news24... 7 out of ten taps are not working. 5 of these are wrapped in gladwrap to stop the leaks. 6 out of 10 toilets do not have: Handles, Locks, Toilet paper, Toilet seats, 1 out of 10 toilets have the sanitizer pad box on TOP of the toilet seat...covered in gladwrap (is there a water tokoloshe that is trapped in there?) I tell you this, since I braved a longdrop in a Zimbabwean township in 2002 - I have not had to 'hover' over a sticky, smelly toilet seat. Come on uShaka, it's tourist season.

Rayz World - a great idea. My only complaint is that children are not given an ID tag, they should have a Parents contact number and code number, the parent should be given the same code number. We lost Savanna a few times and it was quite stressfull! The Island Treasure Snack Bar is manned by the most unhelpful ladies I've ever met. After standing ignored for 5minutes (I stood and watched them pack shelves and wipe the counters... I was the only one there waiting to be served) Feeling like a tarnished treasure...I walked across to the River Lounge to be told that they only sold coffee...and only accept cash - which these parched parentals only found out, once we had excitedly ordered our cappucino's :( The rushed, overcrowded KFC got my money.
The snacks bar had no prices up. You're looking at spending R12.50 Filter coffee. R16.50 Cappucino. R14.50 Cafe Latte. R10 Single Espresso. R20 Double Espresso. Cash. Only.
I am quite shocked at all of the above, we don't often have time to enjoy our touristy spots, but when we do, I really expect the standard to be higher.
From the children's perspective, Savanna and Kelsey have had fun, the playground is safe and well thought out. Kids are easily lost from view and you'd have to visit a few times to enjoy all of the playground. Next time we'll pack a picnic for all of us.

Sandy Bigara

The following is taken from my Husband’s Crit: posted to his Facebook Notes:

“But Rayz Kids World – wow there is nothing like this in Durban. I dispute their claim about being the largest kids play area in Africa. Have they really visited every kids area, in Africa?? It’s not that big but 10 out of 10 for trying. I am a fairly diligent dad yet I lost my daughter at least ten times while we were there. Who knows where on the myriad of tunnels, climbing contraptions, nooks and crannies, and overhangs she was at any one time. As a parent you really can’t keep track of your child properly and have to continually walk around the whole play area as if micromanaging your kid. Add to that all the other children and parents. And further add that there are performance areas for live shows, closed TV rooms (Lazy Lizzard Movie Shack), Builda Block LEGO play areas, painting/activity areas and a toddler play area in the Duzi River Lounge. All of these fantastic facilities are open to all kids all the time (and whoever else may be lurking around). If your kid runs off somewhere without telling you – GOOD LUCK to you!! I don’t recall seeing any CCTV cameras and I am not totally convinced that the gate staff will stop anyone walking out with a kid or even a bigger kid on their own.

I don’t know how long this facility has been open for – nice idea. But it seems as if adults designed it with adults in mind. Kids don’t look after themselves, they have minimum discretion, and no idea about danger. Parents if you go to Rayz Kids World, one of you (probably dad) will be on your feet the whole time.

Maybe I am just a little jaded, in Australia these kind of areas are free, open access public areas, fenced in and secure. You can see your child from any one point in the park meaning a stressless and relaxing time. And the public facilities are a better quality and better design.

Good news though, because there is so much to do and to see at Rayz Kids World you can easily spend 3-4 hours there and still have to come back for more. For only R40 entrance fee, that is good bang for your buck. Oh and there are no other hidden costs (or crookery) like R40 entrance fee BUT you must pay for the rides or pay for entrance to specific areas or access is for only 15 minutes. Rayz Kids World seems to be really about giving kids a place to play. Now that is impressive. These days everyone seems to want to capitalize on a captured market. Rayz Kids World is potentially a stunning facility for ages 2-8 though I will think twice about bringing any kid under 5 – just too much PT for the parents.

Management: Tighten up the security, get rid of the nooks and crannies and make everything visible to the parents from one spot, i.e. the Duzi River Lounge. You want parents to be there and buy coffee don’t you? Look in the photos I took, where are the parents? Oh, and bye the way, your staff look and behave desperately unhappy. I will leave that in your presumably capable hands to sort out. Fix your website, it lies.

Parents: bring a few hundreds in cash, you will need it for food and drinks or you can be smart and bring your own picnic. Take sun block, you will burn in Durban’s summer whether you can see the sun or not. And lastly try not lose your children. It is scary and stressful. In one turn of the head they could be climbing on another contraption and out of sight.

Peace to y’all over this Christmas period.
Francis Doherty-Bigara ”

Monday, 20 December 2010

A Facebook Status Fairy Tail

On Facebook I decided to start a "Status Fairytale" by just writing the words "There once was a…" I typed it and left it to stew… this is the fairytale that unfolded – I think it is quite succinct!

Gotta love FB :P

There was once a...missing sock and no matter where Nicole looked she could not find it. It was a sock that belonged to a pair of very special favourite socks. The socks who lived in the sock drawer were so sad that the remaining sock would be banished from the land of sock drawer. The sock's sobs and tears could be heard and felt beyond the sock drawer all the way to Toy Box Land. Stinkerbell the somewhat smelly fairy came to the rescue.
"Come with me to missing Sock Island and together we will seek far and wide for the missing favourite sock…" and Stinkerbell sprinkled magic grated parmesan on Nicole, and together they went outside and took a cab to the airport. The magic parmesan worked like a dream and soon they were flying, because with SAA you need all the help you can get. This time, there were no overbooked flights, so the two of them got on the first flight out. The plane's engines roared to life and the pilot steered them past the Onetime plane's fallen engine, past the Onetime plane that was on fire, and positioned his plane at the start of the runway.
"Close your eyes" said Stinkerbell, as she took a swig on the tiny Gin & Tonic that cost her R30.
"Next time you open your eyes, we'll be somewhere else!"…

Unfortunately, that somewhere else turned out to be Heathrow which, due to the weather was closed, as were Gatwick, Luton and every other airport in the Northern Hemisphere. (Santa is used to the dodgy weather and flies by Reindeer who land... on roofs, not runways.) But sharp's the word and quick's the action, and with a sprinkle of magic parmesan, Stinkerbell whisked them back to the warmer climes of Nicole's darkened kitchen, having realised she had no idea where Sock Island was. But things then took a bit of a twist for, tucked away under a counter, stood the washing machine, and faintly, coming from behind the closed door, could be heard raucous cheering and merry-making. Nicole risked a peak through the closed door. To her shock she spied the missing sock ... and every missing sock she had ever lost, partying as if there were no tomorrow. They weren't worried about being banished; they would resist returning to the narrow, restricted world of the sock drawer to the last thread!

Thanks to:
For this literary gem!

Friday, 17 December 2010

The Dentist - Part II

Ouch!!! We have to go back for fillings :/ small ones. Lots of pain.

Sandy Bigara
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Thursday, 16 December 2010

The Dentist - Part I

Ok. So it's been what, like 6 years since I saw one. Hideous creatures Dentists. Sitting all day in their "offices" their "Doctors rooms" their "surgeries uDokutela" just waiting to inject, stab, maim and cripple us from the inside...

So, my kind Husband booked us in tandem, him first (how regal) followed by my shivering pitiful self. And so, armed with my Twilight novel (Second time) an Apple (best to make a good first impression) and my Blackberry (it's like my Teddy) I am now sitting in the waiting room (smells like Mothballs) and I am waiting my fate ... still waiting.

Leaving the house was an ordeal, my Maid was feeding Kelsey (Night Stalker) her porridge, and Savanna decided that the world would end if we went to the Dentist (now who would tell her something like that?!?) So, she started to flip her lid and do the purple-faced-red-eye-scream that all parents know and loathe. Francis in his manly wisdom, thought it proper to tell her this white lie - 'you might get an INJECTION' if you go' - this SHOULD put any sane child off...not Savanna, she yelled in fever pitch "I'll HAVE a JEKSHIN!! I'll HAVE one! Let me COME!!??!!"

Ag shame.
She don't know.
What a Dentist 'IS'

I'll let you know how it goes...Francis has just gone in.
Sweet Novicane.
He's cracking jokes.

Sandy Bigara
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The Best of Times

Sitting up with a feisty tot at 2:30am...What to do...? Blogging seems an option worth considering, so here goes. I warn you, I am just 'post-napalm nappy change' so I'm thinking deep (when you change a nappy of this calibre you tend to think back on your life and be grateful for a few things...)

When I was in High School I used to perform annually in The Northwood Plays with Rod Steenhuizen. One year we sang a song that has never left me. It taught me to make the most of every day, I hope, truly, that I do just that. These are the words (If there are the odd incorrect lyrics forgive me!)

"The best of times is now,
whats left of summer but a faded rose?
The best of times is now,
but for tomorrow well who knows?

Let's make this moment last,
and live, and love as long as you know how!

Now, not some forgotten yesterday.
Now, tomorrow is to far away"

Beautiful sentiment, no?

Take care everybody

Sandy Bigara
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Saturday, 4 December 2010

La Rosa @ The Courtyard Theatre @ DUT

La Rosa @ The Courtyard Theatre @ DUT
Running: 3 - 19th December 2010
Tickets: R60 Adults R50 Students/Pensioners
Show times: 7pm
Bookings: 084 244 7425,      072 953 8169 or
(Pieter de Beer, Donna Steel and Nompumelelo Ngwenya)

This two act play is directed by Pieter de Beer, who also plays one of the main characters. This must have been a difficult task and I commend him for his work overall.

The show La Rosa is a good attempt at an unusual, absurd comedy. The Spanish feel, accent and theme is fresh and very funny. I thought the set was beautiful.

I found myself challenged and confused at times, followed by understanding and clarity – throughout the play. This revolving theme of hidden agendas, secrets, lies and subtle underlying chaos persists throughout the play; until the very final scene.
I Thought that the melodrama and cheesy acting were just perfect for the "Movie within a Play…within a Movie" done in that awfully-wonderful Soap Opera style…that said, I found the storyline to be a little confusing and busy – maybe because it was opening night and lines were not as tight.

The actors remained true to their characters throughout and the only criticism I have is that diction, from where I sat, was not always clear – where actors projected towards the back of the stage as opposed to the audience; and for a scene where Nompumelelo Ngwenya was difficult to hear – It was a pity as it was a pivotal scene in the second act.

Overall I think that the play is fresh and appealing, my husband Francis and I giggled much and shared many incredulous looks as the plot unfolded. My absolute favourite is the two Technicians: Thobani Mbhele and Musawenkhosi Ntuli delivered a comical performance!  I would see it again!

Pieter de Beer.
Nomphumelelo Ngwenya.
Donna Steel***
Roberta Trenor.
Radwinn van Wyk.
Fortunate Dhlomo.
Nomonde Matiwane***
Graham Ellis.
Thobani Mbele***
Musawenkhosi Ntuli.

Sandy Bigara

Friday, 3 December 2010

Diary of a 24hr Facebook Detox

The alarm (why did I choose this particular tune?? Sounds like a freaky carnival anthem) has signaled that I am now not allowed to go onto Facebook for 24hrs of Social Networking Detox. This is going to be easy.
This is ridiculous! I have at least 5 notification's (thanks Blackberry) and am not allowed to check! I have a migraine and have baked fish and veggies.

3 minutes of hell. I am now baking Brownies. This is not good for my diet.

SABC3???? I have not watched tv for the past 18weeks. I realise why!! SABC TV is the shytest thing,...TV.
Top Billing - kill me now. Chatting with Kim via sms and Pinnkie via bbm. Wow, I miss trawling walls and stalking all of you guys :(.

Bath time, because i'm not Facebooking I am playing with my daughter. I am 'child' and she is 'mum' special time together :) She's offered to clean my "bumbum" ...and I have declined. I'm now in timeout for bad behaviour!

Bed time. Francis has tried to get me to cheat. Wernich has intercepted this cheating tactic and intervened... I will and CAN do this!!

Kelsey is doing her usual "I don't believe in sleep" jag. We're tired and can't sleep because she cries and demands attention every 30-40mins. Usually Facebook helps me to stay awake. I'm standing up rocking the crib falling asleep.
Wanna cry. Wanna Facebook about it :/

Up again rocking Kelsey to sleep. Have no idea whats happening in the world (ok I lie because I've read News24 cover to digital cover as well as People Magazine online)

I've put my phone on Franc's side of the bed. Just thinking of how many people have connected with me privately :) nice. Pinnkie, Kim and Bronwyn - BBM and SMS 'like the 'old days'...

Grumpy Savanna and tired Franc have left for school and stressed mommy and grumpy Kelsey are left behind. This is usually when I catch up on notification's and generally be a silly munky. But,...i'll stay away. Cos' I can can can!  
I tried on my Cabaret dresses yesterday (OMG my ass is bigger!!) and I have some weight to lose before opening night 26th January! Looking forward to sequinning and beading them up so I can be a flashy Diva!

Just been thinking of how Facebook has changed the way an entire generation thinks, instead of internalising an experience and appreciating it in the moment - we have all confessed that we immediately get a 'perfect status' that we could post. We never thought like this before, is this really an addiction (Kelsey is crappin' nappy next to me...hard being philosophical while your nose is being viciously pooh-attacked by the vilest fecal matter known to man...) anyway, it definitely is an addiction (Facebook, not the pooh) to quote Bronwyn 'just got my fix' why do we feel gratification? (I can tell you, having witty friends who post hysterical comments helps - I have never laughed so much as on Facebook) There must be an endorphine release. Facebook is Chocolate. Therefore, Facebook makes your bum look fat. Case closed.

Watching Kelsey eat her foot...this is great :/ sooooo awesome and fun. Bleh.

Sister Sheila called, our plan of action with Night Stalker us this: (helpmejesus)
3am feed
6am feed
8am porridge
9am feed
12pm veggies, carrot, sweet potato, butternut
1pm feed
3pm porridge
5pm formula bottle
6:30 feed
repeat x 1258643289652 !!!!!

Porridge is done, Kelsey is happy. I'm feeling stressed and anxious about working from home with a baby and no maid...

Kelsey won't feed :/ Sister Sheila says she might have a virus - she's had ugly nappies today...(remember the napalm nappy from earlier?)

I have steamed: Carrot, Sweet Potato and Butternut for one week - freezing them for each days use ;) Kleva = Me :)

Kelsey has eaten a whole stack of veggies... might have to make more :/. This child has hollow legs! At 4 months she's as long, if the top of her head is level with my shoulder her feet are at my knees! How did she EVER fit inside me??! Ama-Zing. I'm bored and slightly curious about Facebook...maybe just...a...peek...NO! I CAN do this! **sigh**

Francs home from the evil world of SARS (not the international virus!...the tax man you silly billy!) We all fell asleep - love working from home!

OMG!!! Wikileaks!!! Evil American bastards!!

I am SO close to the end of my Facebook Fast :) :) :) I have had a few "we miss you" messages through bbm, sms, email and through the sexy portal of Francis (you sneaky people have tried to break through my detox you munky's!!) The truth is this - I miss you all too. Even the wierd guy in my friends list who sends me Al Quaida stuff - Amed, hold on to the dream bro! (not) I'm close to my goal. I did it. So wah!.

We have a possible show to watch tonight @ The Courtyard, Franc is finding out the details.......... :)

Sheryl is here!! We've all eaten 2min noodles and its time for Kelsey's porridge, bottle, bath, bed... Finished dressing Sheryl for her 60's do... Getting dressed for the show.

Kelsey bathed, fed and dressed. Savanna's bathing in Kelsey's baby bath...

Yay!! I made it! Facebook time :)

Sandy Bigara